Recognizing Sour Relationships

Has your relationship turned a bit...sour? Do you recognize any of these symptoms?

• Avoidance. Remember when you used to be each other's best friends, and you two spent every minute together?

• Irritability. "I love you," once spoken softly, is now "what the *#@& did you say to me?!" "Leave me alone!" "You make me sick!" "I've had it!" "Get off my back, will you!" and even "I HATE YOU!"

• Silence. Oh, argh! How many of us haven't resorted to the dreaded "silent treatment." We just clam up, stick our nose up in an apathetic air, and pretend like they don't even exist  - and, if they did exist, are not even worthy of our attention.

• Enlisting allies. Yes, we turn family members, friends, co-workers, and acquaintances into our own personal army in our vendetta against them. We even view our therapists and counsellors as potential enlistees.

• Threats. "I'm leaving you!" "I'll find another!" "Don't make me hurt you!"

• Constant quarreling. Bickering back and forth. Often times neither party can even remember what the fight was about.

• Feelings of being unloved. The biggest sign of a deteriorating relationship is suddenly noticing that you have become insecure. You feel neglected, unloved, unattractive, incompetent, and as though you could very easily be replaced by another. Often you may feel defensive, as though you have been singled out for attack.

These are just some of the signs of a deteriorating relationship. The eBook "How to STOP a Breakup" explains the signs, symptoms, and reasons behind a relationship breakup, as well as discusses cures and prevention methods.

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