End
of a Relationship Warning Signs
One or both partners may
exhibit the following warning signs and changes:
Contact:
Contact between partners
diminishes. Phone calls lessen in frequency or length, emails drop off,
and time spent together becomes less and less.
Mood Changes & Irritability:
One or both partners may be edgy
and are often in a bad or depressed mood. Little things about their
partner may irritate them and they seem more touchy, sensitive,
argumentive, and hypervigilent.
Secretive: Is your
partner suddenly secretive about where they are going, or who they've
been with? Do they whisper when speaking on the phone, or tell the
party calling that they'll call them back?
The Here & Now: Does one
partner suddenly stop talking about the future, or limit plans to
'today'. Does making plans for upcoming events suddenly stop?
Separation: Does one or
both partners seem to be spending more time with friends, or visiting
their family. Do you or your partner some how end up in separate rooms
during the evening, or one of you spend more time than usual falling
asleep on the couch? Do you plan separate weekend activities?
Communication: Does one or
both partners avoid in depth conversations, preferring to answer
questions or inquiries with a quick 'yes' or 'no'? Does one or both
partners get overly absorbed in a t.v. show, or book? Is the table
quiet during meals, and the mornings spent with you or your partner's
nose stuck in the newspaper?
Criticism:
Does
one or both partners suddenly seem over critical of the other,
concentrating on the other's flaws or faults, or perceiving faults
where there really isn't any? Does one or both partners exhibit
'delusions', seeing things that are wrong with their partner or
relationship, where in reality these really don't exist?
Intuitive: Do you just
have an 'unexplainable' feeling that there is something wrong with your
partner, or the relationship? Do you 'sense' or have a 'gut-feeling'
that something is amiss?
Distant: Does one or
both partners seem to be distant, distracted, or miles away in
their thoughts? Is one or both partners daydreaming more than
usual?
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